I have some theories about love that I can’t resist to share. Love is one of those theory free zones who anyone, anywhere and at anytime is allowed to talk, sing or cry about. Since no evidence is needed when talking about love, nor the need to stay true to facts, I really enjoy making up my own theories and analyzing this subject.
So one of my theories is the following. I don’t envy men when it comes to love/relationships, I honestly feel sorry for them. The expectations that women have on men are absolutely unreasonable! They are supposed to understand us, act the way we want and make us feel like the most important person in the world. And all this at the same time as they need to be clairvoyant, and they better be because we won’t make it easy for them and tell them what we feel, they need to figure it out by themselves. Oh girls girls girls my inner reality view is crying, they are not that complex, it’s men, people, not a Harlequin novel.
I blame Bonnie Tyler, and so should everyone else! She taught us that we should hold out for a hero. This woman was building up unreasonable expectations while my generation still was drooling in the baby crib. She compered a good man with god and she taught us that he needs to be larger than life. Well newsflash for the girls who still believe in Bonnie Tyler, he wont be larger than life nor fresh from a fight, he might be large, but that’s another article.
I’m sorry to sound so cynical and I wish I could be as naive as back in the day when I did believe in Bonnie Tyler’s preachings, ignorance is a bliss people. If you are questioning my theory may I introduce you to Bonnie’s other hit single “It’s a heartache”. Here is a small taste from that “psalm”: It’s a fools game, nothing but a fools game, standing in the cold rain, feeling like a clown. Well I’m sorry but if you are out there holding out for a hero till the morning light, don’t say I didn’t warn you when you are standing in the cold rain, feeling like a clown.
So am I saying that we should not have any hopes or expectations on men? Yes, do not have any expectations and always settle for less. That’s the recipe for a good relationship. No, of course I’m kidding. You should have expectations and demands on your man, and so should he on you, settling for less is the worst. But those expectations have to be reasonable, something men are much better at than women. Please ladies, come down from Venus.
By Zorana Micic
